A friend that has just lost a loved one and is going through the grieving process is a friend in need of your caring and understanding. What can you do to help?
Be in attendance at the funeral or memorial service. Your presence emphasizes to your friend that, although there’s been a loss, friends like you remain close. Someone who is grieving has a definitive need to talk about his or her emotions. Addressing a simple question towards your friend like, “What can I do?”, encourages your friend to talk to you. It also tells them that you’re there to support, not judge. Some survivors have the need to talk about their loved ones for months, maybe years. Healing is not an “overnight” process and each individual handles it differently.
Remember, it’s Okay to cry. It’s also important to keep in mind that laughter heals. Helping your friend focus on the good memories and fun times is one of the most important things you can do.
Sending a personal letter, brief note, making a memorial contribution, phone calls, little visits, or preparing a meal for the family are other ways you can show that you care. A hug has always gone a long way towards providing lasting comfort.
For the Grieving: After the funeral service, after all of the legal paperwork has been completed and processed, and family and friends have returned to their “normal” routines, you may still be struggling to find that “normalcy” in your life again. For those of you that we have had the privilege to serve, we encourage you to stay in touch with us here at the funeral home, especially if you’re having a difficult time dealing with your loss. We have a wealth of information on grievance counseling groups, individual counseling, books you can read, etc. Medicare pays for individual grievance counseling with a small co-pay. We are here to help you through the entire process. Our job is not finished at the conclusion of the funeral service.
For some individuals that have lost a loved one, the solution for “going on” is a simple as
becoming a “volunteer”.
5 Reasons to Volunteer your Time and Talents:
#1. It is a way to be and feel useful and do the right thing for the right reason.
#2. It’s good for the heart, reduces stress and depression, and increases self-esteem.
#3. It makes you feel needed. (We all need to feel needed).
#4. It’s an opportunity and a way for you to “give back” and say “thank you” for all that
others have done for you.
#5. Studies show that people who volunteer live healthier, longer, and happier lives.
We hope that this has been informative for you. Please know that if you have any questions or concerns, Bill and Ingried Lowman, with Lowmans Arizona Funeral Home are only a phone call away. Our goal is to inform and educate the community of the many options available to you in the funeral industry. Our mission is to provide the
community with quality services and products at a reasonable and fair fee; treating families with the highest degree of respect because you deserve it. For questions or pre-
arrangement information, contact Bill and Ingried Lowman at:
PHONE: (602)276-3601 FAX: (602)276-3601 TOLL FREE: (877)786-4668
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